Having fun, playing around, frolicking, and enjoying oneself turns out to be one of the basic needs. As long as everyone is on the same page and doesn't harm others. But usually, it's indeed a tug of war. For example, if someone finds joy in teasing, they'll seek out others who find joy in being teased. In such cases, it's important to realize what activities bring joy to oneself. So, one can choose to stay or pursue other activities. For instance, if chasing after someone is fun for some but exhausting, causing struggle and significant effort for others, it may give pleasure to those pursuing but not necessarily to those being chased.
Having fun, being playful, messing around, and enjoying oneself are indeed basic needs. As long as everyone is on the same page and doesn't harm others. But usually, it's indeed a tug of war. For example, if someone finds joy in being chased, they'll attract or seek out others who enjoy chasing. If someone finds joy in tormenting, they'll encounter others who enjoy being tormented. In such cases, it's essential to realize what brings joy to oneself. So, one can choose to stay in that pattern or opt for something different.
If the types of fun are different or don't mutually fulfill each other's joy and pleasure, they won't be able to engage in the back-and-forth, the pulling, or the "dance." Like in cases of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and codependency, they won't be able to dance if deep down, neither enjoys it or finds it fun, even if one party is suffering (due to subconscious patterns and settings). *In cases of fun related to others.
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